How To Read My Journal.

[tckma]

Okay, I just went through a friends' list edit, and I noticed something. So, it's public post time.

I am friends-only, and have been since February 2004, due to some rather puerile behavior which went on in my journal at the time. My very last public post is a rant about this, at the end of which, I instruct people to comment if they want to be added, which is SOP on friends-only journals.

Apparently, people either cannot or do not read instructions, or they cannot or do not follow them.

With certain exceptions, I do not care who reads my journal, so long as I know them in some context, either online or in real life.

But please, PLEASE PLEASE, pretty, PRETTY please with a cherry on top leave me a comment here if you decide to add me (or send me an e-mail if that isn't working... I've had that happen before due to some screwy settings I had on my LJ -- my address is in my profile). Otherwise, my journal is going to be pretty damn boring to read, as you won't be able to SEE any entries. I have a tendency to not look at who has friended me on a regular basis, so unless you somehow alert me that you've added me, I likely won't notice that you've added me for several months. Again: Friends-only means that unless I add you back, you won't be able to read any of my entries.

You should include in your comment a note about why you're adding me, and if we've met, either in real life, or online. If I don't know you from somewhere else, either online or in real life, chances are good that I'm not going to add you, since I have a tendency, in general, not to trust people.

Comments

[katyra.livejournal.com]

Hey, I noticed you friended me, so I'm returning the favor :)

[tckma.livejournal.com]

It showed up that there were a lot of people who had friended me that I hadn't noticed, and you were one of them. I remember you from the CRFH!!! boards, so I figured what the heck.

[gwennierocks.livejournal.com]

hi! i added you. i believe i found your journal in a community you're no longer in, heh. umm, well, hi. i'm gwen. we've not met.

[tckma.livejournal.com]

s'possible, though I don't remember leaving any communities recently, and looking at your list of communities, there's nothing on there that rings a bell. *shrug*

No matter. Added.

nice attitude.

[67stratocaster.livejournal.com]

Attitudes like yours are what makes LJ such a sucky place, lately. Back in the good old days, people would take a chance on being open to new friendships without acting like foot-stamping prima donnas about it. "Comment here or I'll make a nasty angry public post making fun of you and berating you for not begging permission first!" Whatever, man.

I came across you at sheer random. Don't worry- I won't be adding you anytime soon. Adding people is supposed to make friends, not foes.

Re: nice attitude.

[tckma.livejournal.com]

Clearly, you've never been threatened with physical harm on your LJ. Bully for you.

[the-epic.livejournal.com]

I was figuring since you know a thing or two about bikes, and you're Ehjay approved...I would try and get in on the fun.

[tckma.livejournal.com]

Yes sir! :)

[i-love-tigger.livejournal.com]

Hey! May I friend you? I am friends with Snarkivist. I live in MA as well and love Moose (I noticed some of your icons)

[tckma.livejournal.com]

Sure. I know Laurie because her roommate is my girlfriend.

[lovewhenyoulove.livejournal.com]

Thanks for the nice comment on my page! I totally agree with your sentiments about OpenDiary. I'm really enjoying LiveJournal so far, but I'm still kind of getting to know how everything works.

I decided to go with a "friends only" journal this time too. Like you said, it's not because I want to hide behind anything; I just want to know who's reading it. I think that's totally fair. And at the end of the day, a journal is somewhere you should feel totally safe to express yourself. I don't really understand the comment made by the user above, but I guess everyone is entitled to his own opinion.

But anyway, I'm just writing this to tell you that I'm going to add you to my list. After all, our musical compatibility rating is "very high." :)

Cheers.

[tckma.livejournal.com]

Hey, why not? Like I said, I just, out of curiosity, took your last.fm name, tacked ".livejournal.com" on it, and there you were. I think it's cute that your icon here has the pencil in the corner, and for last.fm it's got an eighth note.

I like a lot of Canadian bands that don't get any airplay here in the US, plus I have an unhealthy obsession with Tim Horton's (the closest one to me is two hours away, and the US ones just are not as good as the Canadian ones).

You may be interested to know that one of my ex-girlfriends lived in Welland (I met her through a GBS fan board), so I'm somewhat familiar with the Niagara peninsula. I've driven through Hamilton (though I haven't strayed from the Q-E in that area). For what it's worth. I put A LOT of miles on my car during that year and a half.

And that was a little chapter of a book to say that when our President ends up making everyone else in the world hate us and want to destroy us, I could probably pass for Canadian pretty easily. ;)

I've returned the favor and added you back. I was in a meeting at work (and I generally don't check LJ from work, but I do check e-mail), so that's why I waited until lunchtime.

[shimmerdance.livejournal.com]

I don't know precisely what I'd be reading if you friended me, but I'm curious. I ran across you in a comment thread of feminism in the journal of benlinus, whom I found via kdotdammit. I went to your journal solely because you used the word "misandrist." That word would come from such a tiny segment of the population that I had to. And now I find I need the super-secret code in order to satisfy my 'satiable curiosity. Positive nothing in my journal would be of interest to you, I just like to read smart people.

Roxanne

[tckma.livejournal.com]

Okay, but I can promise you that I'm neither as interesting nor as intelligent as I make myself out to be.

[jenaflynn.livejournal.com]

Heya. Added you. Since you know Wavilyem, and I do to, and you seem nifty. So if that's ok.....

[mfong.livejournal.com]

Hi,

I'm Becca's friend. Becca who goes to University of Michigan. How did you get your theme for your LJ? I want it! I'm nit-picking, but it's missing 1 building that I can see. That new building, next to the Pru, with the open roof. That building.

And. . . I did FIRST robotics in High School too, for Boston Latin. The "NU-Trons"

Hope to hear back from you.

~Michael

[tckma.livejournal.com]

It's one of the standard SS2 layouts. I complain about it because it's missing the CITGO sign.

And yay FIRST!

[mfong.livejournal.com]

Oh. Sorry Forgot to add, that Becca = Spinthecube

[tckma.livejournal.com]

I figured that one out. I'm occasionally intelligent. ;)

[nonvenomous.livejournal.com]

Hi! I added you because I saw you in LJ prom. You and I have a few things in common and I think you are rather interesting.

A few things about me:
- My lj is completely empty to the public because it is all friends only.
- I don't do filters. You read everything, whether you want to or not. lol.
- I'm online way too much.
- I read every entry of my friends, and most of the time I comment. I like finding new friends, but I don't like when I feel like they have only added me to comment on their entries and make themselves feel more popular. I have a few who don't even comment on mine and it annoys me. If you won't bother reading, please let me know so that I can unadd you.
- I'm pretty unique, some infos on the lj page, but since I've added you, you can read some entries if you want :)

[tckma.livejournal.com]

Done.

I'm at work right now, on my lunch break. Typically I read my f-list once in the morning and once at night. (Ha. I'm an addict.)

[i-love-tigger.livejournal.com]

are you not getting my IMs again???

[tckma.livejournal.com]

No one has IM'd me tonight, but my internet connection as a whole has been flaky tonight.

[dotty-alice.livejournal.com]

Hey it's Dotty from CRFH!!! and I added you today. In case you didn't seen that on the Board, thought I'd put it here too. Your entries show up on my friends page, but this page has no entries past this page unless I look at them individually. Is that how the layout is supposed to be?

[tckma.livejournal.com]

Well, I've added you back, and prior to this comment you'd already commented on some entries you wouldn't have been able to see had I not figured out who you are and added you.

No, it's not supposed to just show this one entry. Try a cache-bypassing reload? (Control-Shift-R in Firefox)

[midnights-sun12.livejournal.com]

add me already!

[tckma.livejournal.com]

You seem to have undergone a username change I wasn't aware of until now.

[uvula.livejournal.com]

A plate collector and a statementser...or something.

I've been collecting for most of my life, which brings the total number of plate collectors over at statements to...well...2.

I was ALPCA for years but I let my membership lapse. I really should send them a check.

[tckma.livejournal.com]

Oooh, you win.

Another Michigander, eh? That brings the total number of you on my friends' list to... 2.5 (the .5 just moved to Baltimore). 2 from statements.

I say this because I'm going to start looking for a new job, and I'd like to do something in Intelligent Vehicle Systems/Intelligent Highways/Computer Vision and that MIGHT mean Detroit, and in that case I want some Michiganders telling me about nice neighborhoods, if they exist.

[agentsteel53.livejournal.com]

hey, add me... and go see lots of road sign photos over in my area!

[tckma.livejournal.com]

OOOH MASS I-86 SIGN!

*covets*

[rintheamazing.livejournal.com]

Hi. I've been gradually friending a lot of the statements regulars, and I seem to have missed you, which is bad, cause you seem to be made of awesome. So I'm adding you now.

[tckma.livejournal.com]

Yeah, me too. I always think I have people on statements added, then I'll say something like "Didn't you read that in my journal? Wait, WHAT? You're not on it? Must fix this."

[i-love-tigger.livejournal.com]

why would you unfriend me and ignore me this whole time??? just cause I was upset you were moving?? you should be happy I care that much! I can't believe you would hurt me like this

[kaitl.livejournal.com]

Hiya

Saw a comment from you on iamjanjan's journal and checked out your info page. Your journal sounds interesting (especially the homeownership stuff and the robotics stuff-- I just learned about FIRST Robotics about 2 months ago when I was asked to volunteer at a Lego League regional competition here in Champaign, IL).

May I be your friend?
My journal is not super intersting... just stuff about grad school, our new dog, and living in Champaign... but *shrugs*.

:-)

[tckma.livejournal.com]

Yes. :)

I have an apartment now, though, and my house is for sale.

YAY FIRSTies!

[fallen-x-ashes.livejournal.com]

I really would like to to read you for a bit, because your musical taste seems to align with mine a bit. You're a huge Granian fan from what I can tell, for example.

[tckma.livejournal.com]

I wouldn't say HUGE fan. Fan enough to know that he's Kill The Alarm now, though.

[htebazile-ylime.livejournal.com]

I am adding you as a friend. Surely, you know that you know me from statements. :)

[tckma.livejournal.com]

Of course.

[lilbluefoxie.livejournal.com]

#9462 here, nice to meet another ALPCA member =)

[tckma.livejournal.com]

#9101, myself.

peace out!

[mslauren2930.livejournal.com]

no worries. have a nice life, I guess. *shrug*

[fflo.livejournal.com]

Hi. I'm adding you via the friendzy biz, and because there's something about your sentences that's appealing, and because I have a fondness for that part of Maryland you joke seems more like PA.

Once when I lived in Baltimore I went to a party at a farmhouse off of I-70, some distance west of town (but not even as far as Hagerstown), and I had this idea I wanted to live in such a place, see the stars at night, it'd be worth it for the commute, ... But I've still never had a commute longer than 15 minutes. And it's only when conditions are right that I can really see the stars at night.

[tckma.livejournal.com]

Added, thanks! I haven't posted in a few weeks because my life has been a giant ball of crazy.

[dreamchaser.livejournal.com]

I found you through ellettra and grlicnotgmblin - I have added you if that's OK.

[tckma.livejournal.com]

Well Kristen and Lindsay are made of awesome, and it seems your friends list is a subset of mine. So I shall add you. Go grab a cup of tea (or an entire pot if you want to read me all the way back to December 2001 when I started this journal, though that would be sadistic and when I read back on those entries I don't really like who I was then). If you want a quick intro, read the past month. My life has become very interesting lately, and I'm trying to write in here more (the past several years I've kind of been quiet).

Also - if you come across me pissing and moaning about Jen, as you are likely to, that is very unlikely to be you, unless the ex-girlfriend I love to hate has moved to Canada.