How To Read My Journal.

[tckma]

Okay, I just went through a friends' list edit, and I noticed something. So, it's public post time.

I am friends-only, and have been since February 2004, due to some rather puerile behavior which went on in my journal at the time. My very last public post is a rant about this, at the end of which, I instruct people to comment if they want to be added, which is SOP on friends-only journals.

Apparently, people either cannot or do not read instructions, or they cannot or do not follow them.

With certain exceptions, I do not care who reads my journal, so long as I know them in some context, either online or in real life.

But please, PLEASE PLEASE, pretty, PRETTY please with a cherry on top leave me a comment here if you decide to add me (or send me an e-mail if that isn't working... I've had that happen before due to some screwy settings I had on my LJ -- my address is in my profile). Otherwise, my journal is going to be pretty damn boring to read, as you won't be able to SEE any entries. I have a tendency to not look at who has friended me on a regular basis, so unless you somehow alert me that you've added me, I likely won't notice that you've added me for several months. Again: Friends-only means that unless I add you back, you won't be able to read any of my entries.

You should include in your comment a note about why you're adding me, and if we've met, either in real life, or online. If I don't know you from somewhere else, either online or in real life, chances are good that I'm not going to add you, since I have a tendency, in general, not to trust people.

Comments

[katyra.livejournal.com]

Hey, I noticed you friended me, so I'm returning the favor :)

[tckma.livejournal.com]

It showed up that there were a lot of people who had friended me that I hadn't noticed, and you were one of them. I remember you from the CRFH!!! boards, so I figured what the heck.

[gwennierocks.livejournal.com]

hi! i added you. i believe i found your journal in a community you're no longer in, heh. umm, well, hi. i'm gwen. we've not met.

[tckma.livejournal.com]

s'possible, though I don't remember leaving any communities recently, and looking at your list of communities, there's nothing on there that rings a bell. *shrug*

No matter. Added.

nice attitude.

[67stratocaster.livejournal.com]

Attitudes like yours are what makes LJ such a sucky place, lately. Back in the good old days, people would take a chance on being open to new friendships without acting like foot-stamping prima donnas about it. "Comment here or I'll make a nasty angry public post making fun of you and berating you for not begging permission first!" Whatever, man.

I came across you at sheer random. Don't worry- I won't be adding you anytime soon. Adding people is supposed to make friends, not foes.

Re: nice attitude.

[tckma.livejournal.com]

Clearly, you've never been threatened with physical harm on your LJ. Bully for you.

Re: nice attitude.

[fleurdelista.livejournal.com]

Well, I'm glad you live in a happy little land of rainbows and butterflies and everyone sings songs that remind me of vaguely hippieish crap.

Sorry that you can't wrap your mind around any potential scenario for why someone might have a post like this. And sorry you interpreted it that way.

PS: The real reason LJ sucks? Not because of posts like these. Drama powers the internets. No, my friend, it's because LJ got rid of codes. And allowed anyone and their sister to make 18 troll accounts each. (I have five, myself.) And then they harass people for something ridiculous, forcing people like our esteemed host here to have to retreat under a post like this.

So basically, good riddance. :-D

[the-epic.livejournal.com]

I was figuring since you know a thing or two about bikes, and you're Ehjay approved...I would try and get in on the fun.

[tckma.livejournal.com]

Yes sir! :)

[i-love-tigger.livejournal.com]

Hey! May I friend you? I am friends with Snarkivist. I live in MA as well and love Moose (I noticed some of your icons)

[tckma.livejournal.com]

Sure. I know Laurie because her roommate is my girlfriend.

[lovewhenyoulove.livejournal.com]

Thanks for the nice comment on my page! I totally agree with your sentiments about OpenDiary. I'm really enjoying LiveJournal so far, but I'm still kind of getting to know how everything works.

I decided to go with a "friends only" journal this time too. Like you said, it's not because I want to hide behind anything; I just want to know who's reading it. I think that's totally fair. And at the end of the day, a journal is somewhere you should feel totally safe to express yourself. I don't really understand the comment made by the user above, but I guess everyone is entitled to his own opinion.

But anyway, I'm just writing this to tell you that I'm going to add you to my list. After all, our musical compatibility rating is "very high." :)

Cheers.

[tckma.livejournal.com]

Hey, why not? Like I said, I just, out of curiosity, took your last.fm name, tacked ".livejournal.com" on it, and there you were. I think it's cute that your icon here has the pencil in the corner, and for last.fm it's got an eighth note.

I like a lot of Canadian bands that don't get any airplay here in the US, plus I have an unhealthy obsession with Tim Horton's (the closest one to me is two hours away, and the US ones just are not as good as the Canadian ones).

You may be interested to know that one of my ex-girlfriends lived in Welland (I met her through a GBS fan board), so I'm somewhat familiar with the Niagara peninsula. I've driven through Hamilton (though I haven't strayed from the Q-E in that area). For what it's worth. I put A LOT of miles on my car during that year and a half.

And that was a little chapter of a book to say that when our President ends up making everyone else in the world hate us and want to destroy us, I could probably pass for Canadian pretty easily. ;)

I've returned the favor and added you back. I was in a meeting at work (and I generally don't check LJ from work, but I do check e-mail), so that's why I waited until lunchtime.

[lovewhenyoulove.livejournal.com]

I will confess to having looked people up that way before - not usually on livejournal, but definitely on deviantART. I guess it's helpful that people tend to stick to the same screen name.

And yes, Tim Horton's is excellent. I don't know how you survive being two hours away! I go to Tim's at least once a day. I actually didn't know that they had them in the States. Is it different? Or does it just taste different?

I've only been to Welland a few times, but one of my roommates is actually from there.

I'm so glad that you're a GBS fan. I absolutely love them! I've seen them live quite a few times, but the show they playing in Hamilton on the last tour was amazing. It was a smaller venue so it was really intimate (and the guys were quite chatty). What other Canadian bands are you into?

As long as you've mastered the art of the word "eh," then I think you'll fit in just fine. :)

[tckma.livejournal.com]

They don't have many in the States. Until about two years ago, the closest one to me WAS in Canada. They bought out a small New England donut chain called Bess Eaton's.

It looks like a Tim Hortons, and smells like a Tim Horton's, but it tastes ever-so-slightly different. I don't know how to explain it. Maybe it's just psychological -- not in Canada, therefore not the same.

I like Spirit of the West, Moxy Früvous, Wide Mouth Mason... um... I'm sure there are others, but it is Saturday morning. None of those three get any airplay in the US.

[shimmerdance.livejournal.com]

I don't know precisely what I'd be reading if you friended me, but I'm curious. I ran across you in a comment thread of feminism in the journal of benlinus, whom I found via kdotdammit. I went to your journal solely because you used the word "misandrist." That word would come from such a tiny segment of the population that I had to. And now I find I need the super-secret code in order to satisfy my 'satiable curiosity. Positive nothing in my journal would be of interest to you, I just like to read smart people.

Roxanne

[tckma.livejournal.com]

Okay, but I can promise you that I'm neither as interesting nor as intelligent as I make myself out to be.

[shimmerdance.livejournal.com]

I spend half my time not being as interesting and intelligent as I make myself out to be. The other half of the time, I am not nearly as stupid and boring as I make myself out to be. So on the average, I guess I am pretty realistic. :-)

[jenaflynn.livejournal.com]

Heya. Added you. Since you know Wavilyem, and I do to, and you seem nifty. So if that's ok.....

[mfong.livejournal.com]

Hi,

I'm Becca's friend. Becca who goes to University of Michigan. How did you get your theme for your LJ? I want it! I'm nit-picking, but it's missing 1 building that I can see. That new building, next to the Pru, with the open roof. That building.

And. . . I did FIRST robotics in High School too, for Boston Latin. The "NU-Trons"

Hope to hear back from you.

~Michael

[mfong.livejournal.com]

Oh. Sorry Forgot to add, that Becca = Spinthecube

[tckma.livejournal.com]

It's one of the standard SS2 layouts. I complain about it because it's missing the CITGO sign.

And yay FIRST!

[tckma.livejournal.com]

I figured that one out. I'm occasionally intelligent. ;)

[mfong.livejournal.com]

SS2?
Do you have to be a paid meember?
I use to be. =D

~Michael

[tckma.livejournal.com]

I don't *think* so... they made me switch over to SS2 a while back because I was one of the few remaining SS1 holdouts.